Written by: Lauren Steeves
Whatever your relationship status, these 17 dating resolutions are worth your time in 2017.
The New Year is finally upon us and with it comes a chance to start anew. While one can say that you can start fresh at any point of your life and the opening of a new calendar year doesn’t strictly dictate change, there’s something about a crisp blank slate and the date January 1 that inspires us to reevaluate and restructure.
For some of us 2016 was a trying year. We all experienced our own unique set of challenges and we were all pushed to the brink a time or two (aka week-long hangovers). On the other hand, we’d be lying if we didn’t admit that 2016 also brought us some incredible moments too (aka getting ID’ed at the liquor store). But most importantly, we all experienced a feeling of love. Whether that came from a romantic relationship, a friendship, a family member, ourselves, or a complete stranger – love was present. And despite some people’s pessimism love will continue to be prevalent in 2017.
So now that we’ve downed more alcohol than we’d like to confess (I ain’t sorry), made more questionable choices than we’d like to admit, and watched more Netflix than we thought was humanly possible (guilty) it’s time to think about 2017 – and actually think of 2017 as a sexy AF year compared to 2016’s train wreck. Let’s somewhat get our shit together and set some dating resolutions.
Don’t know where to begin? That’s totally fine.
We’ve made a list of 17 dating resolutions you should take with you into 2017. Regardless of if you’re single and ready to mingle, settled down in a relationship, playing the field or overcoming heartbreak, we promise these resolutions will speak to you.
If you’re thinking of calling bullshit on these resolutions, that’s fine, but remember if 2016 taught us anything it’s that anything can happen – literally anything – which is why Donald Trump is running ‘Merica and there’s now a human in the world named Dream Kardashian.
1. Put Yourself Out There
This one is simple and involves grabbing life by the balls. If you see someone at the gym, the farmer’s market, or the bar who you think is good looking, approach them. Our world has gotten too comfortable with hiding behind our screens, and sometimes all it takes is a small human connection to create something amazing. Worst comes to worse, nothing transpires, but at least you’ll stop fantasying about what could have been.
2. Try new things
Go to the new restaurant instead of your neighbourhood favourite, buy the dress in colour instead of black, try an interactive dating activity like axe throwing or bowling instead of the classic dinner or movie. Whether you’re in a relationship or living life solo trying new things is good for you. You’ll be surprised at what you find when you break out of routine.
3. Date the person who’s not your type
We all have an ideal type. For some, that person resembles Channing Tatum, and for others, it’s Chrissy Teigen, but there’s something to be said for going for someone who doesn’t necessarily check off every box. Opposites attract. And let’s be real sometimes the Channings of this world are total douche bags.
4. Experiment with online dating
While resolution number one is all about making things happen IRL, there’s still something to be said for online dating. We’re on our phones all the fucking time, so there’s a good chance that the person for you is too. So if you’ve been resisting Tinder and Bumble’s tempting powers, maybe 2017 is the year to see what the buzz is all about.
5. Quit comparing your love life to everyone else
Our relationship with social media can be love/hate. We love being able to take silly snaps of the dog filter, but we can hate being bombarded with images of everyone’s picture perfect life. But let’s not forget that stuff is filtered and it’s all fluff anyways. What truly matters is how you are feeling. So stop thinking because you’ve gotten your 35th notification that your high school classmate is engaged or knocked up that that’s where you need to be too. You need to do you, and everything else will fall into place when the time is right.
6. Make a relationship check-in
In 2017, make time to check in with bae. During your check in ask your partner how things are going for them, as well as share how you’re feeling. Too often we get caught up in the daily grind, and we forgot to protect and fight for the people that matter to us most. So rather than risk a good thing falling to the way side, take the time to ensure your love life is headed in the right direction.
7. Be supportive of your partner’s goals
Whether your partner’s 2017 goal is to sweat more or drink less, make sure you are supportive of his or her choice. It’s hard enough to choose the gym over happy hour, and if you aren’t showing your support to your partner either, it won’t be long until that resolution is a distant memory.
8. Go to bed angry
Yeah, we know that’s not the correct phrase, but sometimes it’s necessary. When it’s two in the morning and you’re two bottles of wine deep, sometimes it’s best to put the fight on pause and let a good night’s sleep bring you clarity. The morning will shine a light on what really matters, and if what you’re fighting about is actually worth your energy.
9. Don’t settle
It’s 2017. We are now more connected to one another than ever before. We are no longer limited to dating the five attractive people in our hometown. You date someone, and it isn’t working out, you move on. It’s as simple as that. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and you don’t deserve to be with anyone that doesn’t make you happy.
10. Leave the past, in the past
He forgot your anniversary. She ruined guys’ night. Whatever it is, it’s done. It’s over and it’s time to sort your shit out and move on. Stop looking back, your relationship isn’t headed that way. Focus on the now and leave 2016’s baggage behind.
11. Take time for self love
One thing in life that’s completely true is that you have to love you before you can love anyone else. It’s easy to get caught up in what others need and forget to take care of yourself. But you need love and time, just as much, if not more than anyone else. So draw the bath, grab a book, or pull out your Nikes – whatever it is that you like to do for you, do it. A happier me equals a happier we, hands down.
12. Make time for face time
And no, we’re not talking about iPhone’s FaceTime app, we’re talking about face to face communication. You know, that thing we used to do before smartphones were invented. Take the time to be present in your relationship, without any distractions. Turn off your phone, close your laptop and soak up your love instead.
13. Stop overanalyzing everything
This resolution is specifically devoted to females everywhere. We are all guilty of overanalyzing everything. From a text message, to body language to the tone he used to say “Hi”, it’s time to put an end to it. Guys don’t spend nearly as much time obsessing as we do (trust us) and they are doing just fine. So let’s follow suit and realize that whether we say “Hey” “Hi” or “What’s up?” will not make or break a relationship.
14. Speak the truth, no matter how hard
Love that lasts requires hard conversations. This doesn’t happen all the time, but tough talks are needed to progress in a relationship. You need to know what your partner wants and make sure you’re headed in the same direction. If you’re thinking a wedding and a house full of kids is in your future and your partner instead wants a passport full of stamps, it’s important to realize that sooner rather than later. Oh and one of those futures is not better than the other, everyone’s values, needs, desires and aspirations are different. Just because he doesn’t want kids doesn’t mean you won’t find someone that does and vice versa.
15. Spice up your sex life
Let’s talk about sex baby. Sex doesn’t have to be a taboo subject, nor should it be. Delve into what drives your partner sexually and don’t be scared to mix things up. Something you find hot, your partner might not, and vice versa, so it’s important to express yourself and figure it out. After all, who said I actually would like to orgasm less this year.
16. Surprise each other
Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or you’re freshly dating, make an effort to surprise your partner every now and then. It can be as simple as leaving a note that says “I love you” or picking up a coffee for him or her . It’s the little things that mean the most. And the little things go a long way.
17. Make time for love
At the end of the day, it’s easy to get caught up in everything else that is going on in the world, but it’s crucial to make time for love. Whether that’s setting aside an hour to catch up on each other’s day, heading out for a night on the prowl, or taking time for self love, you need to make it a priority. Our relationships with our loved ones and ourselves are the best things we have in the world so we need to cherish them and treat them with everything they deserve.